TNR Happenings December 21, 2020
Appearance or essence?
It can be very challenging to live in a world hell-bent on the appearance of things rather than their essence. There is always a story behind everything. We base everything on the effects, not the cause: Beauty vs. ugliness, popularity or consensus rather than wisdom or truth, symptoms vs. the true cause of the loss of health. When we care for each and every practice member, we must look beyond the appearance of the circumstances. There is a hidden story behind every appearance. The appearance is not the essence. The symbol is not the source. The mass hysteria is the appearance or the effect, what’s really the cause? We may never know.
Recently a mother messaged us on the Love Has No Color Facebook page with a picture like one you’ve seen hundreds of times before: Santa holding a baby on his lap. Her message tells the story behind the photo. It is a chilling story, but the picture still brings comfort to the mother. Here is the picture and what the mother wrote:
“I just wanted to share...my son Trenton Beston was Santa for your gifts giveaway when he was in school...he had a daughter which he is holding... He enjoyed this day! I think he was on your cover page... but he has passed away 4months ago...him and his baby boy who was 1. His daughter's age in this picture. I just wanted to share with you. He was so proud of this day he did that. I missed the gift giveaway this year...it was too sad. But his daughter was there receiving a gift and loved it. Thank you for all you do!”
Always see beyond the appearance of things, especially when it comes to helping people. Don’t listen to others who speak in very loud, amplified voices as to what can’t be done. Even though we live in a world based on the classification and categories of disease, along with limitation and scarcity, the essence is and always will be unlimited love, health, and wealth.
Things I never got to say to my father
Or my mother, grandmother, grandfather, etc. When you first became a doctor, you were at a different stage of life. You had a busyness about you and great responsibilities. The people who brought you up often times are necessarily pushed to the back burner. Now you’ve got a marriage, kids, an office, a mortgage, and debt and you are still not sure you have what it takes. Relax, you have what it takes. Being in TNR you understand the value we place on relationships. Develop the habit of continuously communicating or having activities with the people who raised you. Nurture the relationships as best you can. Even if you enjoy less than stellar relationships with your parents or relatives, you can still send them cards and gifts and express your gratitude, even if it isn’t reciprocated. Show your gratitude, instead of holding grievances. There can be pain from relationships on both ends. It wasn’t all roses for your parents; there were thorns as well.
Practice tip of the week
Don’t take your foot off the gas pedal. Whatever your travel plans are or if you are taking time off during these next couple of weeks, communicate this with your patients via text, emails, and videos. Let them know your schedule. Let them feel your concern for them this holiday season. If you are taking days off, work an extra hour or two and squeeze in as many people as you can. Don’t put off accepting new patients, start this process immediately as the New Year is right around the corner.
Don’t forget your spouses!
We have members who are surprising their spouses with Head-to- Heads! I can’t tell you how many spouses who aren’t under the TNR umbrella feel isolated, scared, doubt, and fear even though they are married to a DC, ND, etc. You can’t ask them to be like you because they have not had the training you have. As unrelated as Covid and your relationships seem to be, fear damages all the things you hold dear, including spouses and significant others. We all know how casual we can become with relationships and now you have to add global stress like mass hysteria to the mix: sparks will fly. Want proof? Imagine your spouse with someone else. Their worldview would change instantly. Chiropractic or Naturopathic care for the kids? Maybe and maybe not. Medical procedures? You can bet your life on it! An ounce of prevention beats a pound of cure. Give your spouse the gift of love.
From the Mind of Miyagi
The concept of the spider web: All accepted ideas, opinions, and experiences that are in your subconscious (belief systems) can be likened to a spider web. Each time something (an idea, concept, or person) triggers any area of the spider web, the vibrations can be felt everywhere along the web. This is consistent with quantum physics. Everyone has a spider web that is connected to everyone else’s spider web. This means that everybody is connected to everybody. Even though it seems we are all separate and distinct on the outside.
When you allow others to tell their story or when you hold space for another person, your spider web and that person’s spider web are vibrating, much like a tuning fork. Each person you will ever care for is dealing with the same issues of being human. Issues like faith, doubt, family, career, illness, aging, forgiveness, addiction, reconciliation, etc. create meaning in our lives. When a person is seriously ill, it’s a lot like being incarcerated. The person feels isolated and alone; even the people who love them can’t take the illness away. The world doesn’t stop because the person is ill. Nobody stops to help them and they feel so insignificant and inadequate.
By encouraging people to tell their stories so you can witness them, you make an extreme emotional connection with a human being. There is a vibration of your spider webs with all the past and present spider webs. Everyone has a story or reason (excuse), whether it is real or imagined, for not achieving greatness in their lives. The joy of joining is nothing short of sacred. If this sacred relationship is not forged, healing will be all but impossible.
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