TNR Happenings, September 13, 2021
DCME Training is this Saturday
This is one of the true gems of TNR. You can get it nowhere else inside or outside of our profession. The funny thing about Difficult Cases or Level 2, it’s based on principles, not external circumstances, opinions, expectations of the majority, economics, or what it’s applied to. Level 2 applies to parenting, marriage, lovers, etc. It’s a mindset of giving your best and training on a constant and continual basis to make your best next year, better than today. There are no passing the buck, do-overs, trying, ‘too difficult for me’, etc. They require a standard of excellence almost never seen in this world. Sometimes we don’t know how special something is because we take it for granted.
The “Not So Hidden” Mental Health Epidemic
“America’s newly identified at-risk group is preteens and teens from affluent (above $120,000 a year), well-educated families. In spite of their economic and social advantages, they experience among the highest rates of depression, substance abuse, anxiety disorders, somatic complaints, and unhappiness of any group of children in this country.” This quote was taken from “The Price of Privilege” by Dr. Levine. This is a book written in 2006! It simply baffles me that DCs refuse to acknowledge the tremendous help you can be to families. It’s kind of like not mentioning to people that autism is damage to the brain and nerve system. Or catching the flu is an issue with a faulty nerve system resulting in immune suppression, not an absence of a chemical solution.
From the personal files of Dr. Kevin
These quotes are from a 21-year old who will be on hand this Saturday at the DCME Training to answer questions for attendees. (It usually turns into a roast of me!) Here is a peek at a letter she did from the 21-Day DCME Video Program during the first week of her care. Look at the glimpses of hope and how all the pieces will fit together under care. “Dad, As you have found out I am immature, complicated, needy, emotionally distraught, and slightly broken. I also have emotional, mental, and intellectual challenges. Despite all of this, you’ve always been there for me. Putting me under the care of Dr. Kevin is the break I needed. All the other doctors, therapists, etc. have all been helpful, but not enough. Dr. Kevin is the missing piece of the puzzle” “Mom, Thank you for getting me to Dr. Kevin, I don’t understand how it works, but it does. I know I was difficult growing up and you and dad had to put in a lot of effort and for that I’m sorry. I took up all your worrying and time and took it from everyone else (editor’s note, she is a triplet and also has a legitimately handicapped 17-year old sister) and I’m sorry for that. I don’t know how he does it, but Dr. Kevin gets me, it’s as if he knew me before I even met him. In a week, I’ve seen more improvement than I have in months with others.”
Is it worth it?
Doctors outside our group usually stay in a small sandbox or kiddie pool, the land of computer billing systems, technique, academic pursuits, associateships, just getting by, ‘my back, my back' and help people with short-term care for cricks and sprains. Here are excerpts from the testimonial of the mother of the 21- year old graduate of Miracle Training:
“We had been living in a nightmare of therapists, hospital admissions, and medications (antidepressants/anxiety and frequent usage of benzodiazepines) for almost 1 year. Our daughter was living in a world of anxiety/panic attacks that manifested themselves as inability to breathe. She had disrupted our home and our family with her chronic attacks despite all the counseling and outpatient and inpatient therapy she had received. We had gone many sleepless nights because of her panic attacks and it was very unhealthy for us as well as for her. She would run around the house screaming for help because she could not breathe. She would not leave the house and could not return to college. She was in a downward spiral and the medical community, instead of treating the cause, chose to place her on addictive medications which only amplified the situation. We were at a crossroads of what to do because the stress in the home was affecting everyone living here and the inability to find the help we needed. Then we found Dr. Kevin.”
“The changes were being noticed by people other than our immediate family. She was glowing, her relationships with the family were being repaired since the stress tore us all apart, and the panic attacks were gone. She was getting her life back.
She is gearing up to return to on-campus living in a few months and we are confident that with the life skills, knowledge base, and training she received, she will be successful and this will be the true beginning of a successful and meaningful life without anxiety and panic. We cannot express our gratitude to Dr. Kevin. There are no more tears to be shed, no more fighting, no more grasping for help from people not skilled to help in these types of situations.
My exact words to Dr. Kevin were; “I just want my daughter back”…and I got her!
Thank you is not enough when you have been given the most priceless gift in the world. We will forever be indebted to him. A special thanks to my dad for helping me find him.”
Miracle Board
Check out these pictures of Dr. Lizzie’s Miracle Board:
From the Mind of Miyagi
Tears run down my face when I read testimonials like these. This DCME adds her name to all the other people in the past who faced their fears and near-impossible odds to claim their new lives. Seeing graduates make their way into their new lives will stay with you until your last breath.
The need to be right. This character or archetype is inside all people since the beginning of time. It brings comfort, familiarity, and a sense of community. Or does it? Living in a ghetto is a choice, although it doesn’t seem like it is. Look at all the people that somehow, somewhere have escaped its clutches and made something of their lives instead of living in a prison of lost opportunity. The people in the ghetto will not hang with a person who turned their back on people still held hostage in the ghetto. You no longer will put yourself in harm’s way and accept the hopelessness of your circumstances. Everywhere in our worlds, conformity is a way of agreeing with or accepting what others around you say you need to do, how to think, how to dress, etc. This is done to win their approval or to be like them.
Where does our common ground begin and where does our individuality start? The rights of the individual have been stolen and replaced by the opportunity to join others in falsehood under the penalty of law and punishment. Imagine asking someone a very intimate question about their beliefs about health and wanting to copy a person who knows absolutely nothing about health. Asking a 350 pound person about staying thin is never a good idea. What conceals the truth is not the place you should be searching for truth. Your neighbors have made a decision that there is no returning from and they want reassurance or validation from you that THEY made the right choice. In reality, they were bullied and exposed as knowing nothing about health. It’s like agreeing to chemo and radiation therapy even though you don’t have cancer. If they knew with any degree of certainty, why would they be interested in what you did? It can only come from fear and trusting people that are not trustworthy and only interested in control, fear, and manipulating people for profit. Fear is only good as long as it can be spread. Better to be divided in truth than united in lies. Forcing people to comply will only make matters worse.
To stand alone before the lie and the liars is as old as civilization itself. It also takes thermal amounts of courage to withstand the ostracism, punishment, and loss of standing in your community. This is very rare in a society that minimizes truth (health) and gives the front page (a nod to newspapers of the past) to disease, limitation, and lack. Look at all of history’s figures from Christopher Columbus to Galileo, etc. who had the courage to divide with truth, rather than meekly stand by and force people to unite in falsehood when they knew better. If there ever was a time to fly in formation with TNR, it’s now. May God grant strength to people who risk persecution to protect the lives of people who are doing the persecution.
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